"My ex has been spreading horrible rumours about my current girlfriend"

My name is Kola, I met a girl that I loved in June 2015 but realized later that she was cheating on me so I ended the relationship.

I met someone else later in the year and we started dating, I had no idea my ex and current girlfriends are friends.

A month after we began dating, my ex discovered I was in a relationship with her friend, she came to me one night to confirm what she heard and I did explaining to her that I had no Idea she is close to my current girlfriend.

My ex told me she had nothing against my current girlfriend and besides we aren't dating anymore. Fast forward to some weeks later, I began hearing bad things about my new girlfriend; people have been rumors that she snatched me from her close friend.

I found out that it was gossip spread by my ex to tarnish my girlfriend's image. Please what is my ex trying to do? I need your advice quickly.

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Hi Kola,

Rumors are hard to reverse especially when it looks from outside like the subject of the rumor is guilty. Sometimes you have to set the record straight when you realize some rumors aren’t harmless. Your silence can’t solve everything especially when it comes to setting making things right.

How did you end the relationship with your ex? Did you tell her the reason you left or you just stopped communicating altogether? She may have been hurt by your actions and may be looking for the best way to get back at you.

Since you said your ex and her current girlfriend are close friends, how come she didn’t know you are her friend’s ex-boyfriend?

I’ll advise you call your ex to make peace with her. Even if you aren’t guilty of the accusations she’s throwing at you, just tell her you are sorry. It doesn’t only give you peace of mind but makes you a better man.

Try your best for the sake of peace to reconcile your ex and current girlfriend together, it’s obvious there’s bad blood between both of them. If your ex refuses to listen and accept reconciliation and apology then you have to do what it takes to protect your relationship from her.